Creating your reality

It’s easy to resist the idea that we create our own reality because if you accept the idea, then you are responsible for the life you’ve created. And if you wish your life were different, the ball is in your court to make it happen. You don’t get to attribute it to (blame) circumstances beyond your control, or deny that … Read more

Yoga headstand? Me? No way!

I am going to go out on a limb here and say that I have set a goal to do a yoga headstand by year’s end. I’ve been going to this class regularly for over a year and when the teacher takes us through a practice to prepare for a headstand my thought has always been: not me, … Read more

How to Build Up Willpower (spoiler, it's not discipline)

If you had more willpower would you have the good habits you need to create the life, or body, or community, or career, or intellect you dream about? If you had more willpower what would you do? Exercise more? Eat better? Not procrastinate? Be more positive? Watch less TV? Read more? So how do we get more willpower? Most often I … Read more

Gratitude ≠ Fulfillment

“I was coming to terms with the idea that there’s a difference between gratitude and fulfillment … I felt grateful for the work I was getting, but I wasn’t fulfilled.” I read this in a NYTimes interview with the actor Mahershala Ali, who’s in the new movie Moonlight. He was talking about how he came to his decision to leave his … Read more

How many times does it take to change?

If you’re anything like me you’ve been sure that this time is the time you will ‘do it’—whatever ‘it’ is—but it isn’t. I could see the pattern: go on a diet, gain the weight back; start an exercise routine, let it go; decide to go for a better job, stay where I was; break up with my … Read more